To Help or Not to Help???

"I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody"  Bill Cosby

I was out with my daughter yesterday and I came across a book with this quote. I read it aloud and my daughter & I agreed it was very good. We ended up having a great discussion around this quote.

Do you ever realize while you are busy trying to take care you, you have others pulling on you so much that you are not doing what you want? If so remember this quote!

I just posted the above quote and  two short paragraphs on Parenting On Your Own Fan/Business Page on FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/Parentingonyourown

However, I would like to add a bit more… The reason my daughter and I liked the quote was twofold we both have gone down that street of doing for others so much so that we miss the boat for ourselves. But we both said we knew way too many individuals who are always running around doing and helping others so much so that they are not happy. These individuals are not grounded and are having a hard time moving forward.

Now we both agreed that to reach our successes we do have to help others and in turn ours will follow provided we are working towards reaching our successes. So what does this have to do with being a single parent and raising kids, you ask?  It’s simple single parents seem to feel that they are running around all the time until they learn to be organized and develop a plan of action for each day. Just like anyone else. However, it is just them, one parent to take care of the kid(s) and one parent to get the house in order, do the disciplinary actions, have a job and do well it in order to have job security. Well as you can imagine the list can go on and on… Now if you take the quote and address single parent moms and dads well you may find their head is spinning with all they have to do plus add on top of that “Life”.

You have your immediate family and your friends whom we all know you must put some interest/time into all of your relationships in order to grow them, right? So in doing this when does the parent find time for themselves? When do they concentrate on what their needs are and how do they go about following their dreams? When they are pulled in many directions?

This is just one area that our site is going to be about and the interesting thing is this does not just happen to single moms and dads but also in a two parent family moms and dads! At different times in our families’ lives whether you are a one parent household or a two parent household you find yourself doing things On Your Own.

If you have some ideas on how to cope and what you do or have done please feel free to comment on this post, we would appreciate it!  

I will be back on Friday to jump further into this subject!

And, so it goes…